I’ve been going back and forth about this issue ever since I started working 3 years ago.
Should you come out at the workplace? Is it a good idea to come out to a coworker?
Yes, you have lunch with your coworker, you get along pretty well, she laughs at your jokes, you’ve added her on Facebook, and most importantly, you feel she’s open minded, but is it a good idea to come out to her?
What if she stops looking at you as that talented Marketing guy who’s good in English, and starts looking at you as that guy who takes it up the ass?
If a straight employee brags to his coworkers that he fucks chicks every night, he’s so macho. He’s the MAN. When a GAY employee simply says he’s gay, without bragging of any sexcapades, he’s immediately seen as that man who screams like a woman in bed (even IF he’s not a bottom).
But I’m so surprised at myself these days. It doesn’t bother me as much it used to. I feel more comfortable coming out to people, than ever before. (Wow. Being gay IS really a work in progress.)
So anyway, I came out to this coworker. She asked me over lunch about my dating life and I said I had a boyfriend last year. She was cool about it and didn’t flinch, which made me feel at ease. But still I can’t help but wonder if there’s a risk of her taking me LESS SERIOUSLY…PROFESSIONALLY… after knowing I was gay. Or is it all in my head?
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